Do Your Part for America, Turn Off the Porn

But what does porn have to do with America?  With the well being of society?

Usually those opposed to pornography, even the most strident fundamentalists, often answer, “Nothing.”

We see porn use as a private issue that at worst will embarrass the user if exposed.  But in the big picture it’s shrugged at as mostly a harmless sin, accompanied with a  “boys will be boys” type sigh in dismissal.  A little prayer and maybe an “accountability partner” will clear that up, we say.  Not a huge deal as long as you keep it manageable, right?

Not so fast.

A growing body of sociological evidence should give us pause.  I’ve recently read a couple of books by sociologist Mary Eberstadt.  Her take on family ethics, religion, and secularism is fresh, hard-hitting, and eye-opening — all while building on sound and long running research.  Most disturbingly, her book on the sexual revolution, Adam and Eve After the Pill, has an entire chapter dedicated to the societal damage porn use inflicts.

Hold on.

Before you shut down such a puritanical notion, consider the following:

According to Eberstadt, pornography . . .

1) Encourages Risky Behavior: Numerous studies indicate young people exposed to pornography are more likely to have multiple lifetime sexual partners, more likely to have had more than one sexual partner in the last 3 months, more likely to have used alcohol or other substances at their last sexual encounter, more likely to try riskier forms of sex, and more likely to be sex offenders.  In short, watching eventually leads to acting and the sexual acting of adolescents has well documented costs, healthcare and otherwise, that torpedo any refrain of internet pornography being private.

2) Shatters Families: At the 2003 meeting of American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers – 62% of attendees said pornography played a role in divorce cases they worked within the last year.

3) Saps Men’s Ability to Love: Studies indicate porn saturated men lose the ability to relate to or be close to women.  As one example, in the book Pornified, researcher Pamela Paul interviewed 100 porn users and found that men have trouble being sexually interested in “real” women and sex lives with wives and girlfriends thus collapse.  Another researcher, Dr. Norman Dodge, described men in his study as “always craving porn but never being satisfied.”

4) Feeds An Exploitive System: The porn industry itself is a bastion of exploitation, drug use, AIDS, and physical harm.  Furthermore, pornography is beyond a doubt often intertwined with prostitution.  Rarely is a sex trafficking ring broken up where cameras and lightening equipment are not also found.  These are real women, real daughters, cousins, sisters, and friends. Would we be so apathetic if they were ours?

I’m not trying to pile on guilt here.  Any man who says he has never looked at porn is a liar.  My goal is two fold: 1) If this is something you are currently struggling with, hopefully the above information will give you the resolve to get help, and 2) I hope those of you mentoring young men will use this information as talking points to encourage holiness and care for others.

So do your part for your country.  Do you love America and want our society and people to prosper?  Turn off the porn.

Peace,

Ben

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2 thoughts on “Do Your Part for America, Turn Off the Porn

  1. Honestly, I was prepared to roll my eyes at this one when I saw the title, but nice job on pulling this info together. This is something my wife and I discuss a fair amount, especially as it relates to raising our kids. We’re not squeamish about discussing sex with our children, and we believe in talking to them about it before their peers have the chance, but we’ve been uncertain exactly how to handle the porn thing. I’ll definitely check out some of the sources you’ve linked to.

    Thanks! 🙂

    1. Thanks for reading. Ha I understand the “rolling the eyes.” I did the same. But the amount of research is pretty stunning and it’s crazy that no one is talking about it, even a basic google search is jaw dropping.

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